John Mellencamp and estranged wife Elaine Irwin will remain friends as they end their 19-year marriage, a longtime pal tells PEOPLE.
“There will be no war between Elaine and John Mellencamp,” Kris Gebhardt, John s former trainer and 11-year friend of the exes, tells PEOPLE. “They are both levelheaded people who are great parents. They have a lot of respect for each other.”
Gebhardt believes that Irwin, 41, will get through her breakup from John, 59, without a problem.