03/04/2014 AT 11:15 AM ET
Juan Pablo Galavis, former pro soccer player, single father and star of this season’s The Bachelor, is blogging for PEOPLE.com each week about the ladies, the dates and the difficult decisions he faces. You can also follow Juan on Twitter @JuanPaGalavis.
How do I start writing this after watching the Women Tell All episode, and seeing them complain about things that happened so long ago? Do I like talking badly about people? No, especially not about women. So let’s see how I can write this without hurting anyone’s feelings.
I think to understand the women I have to take a step back and remember that it’s not easy facing rejection. Since I was on the other side, I perfectly understand their frustration, and after watching the show back, they probably feel like they wasted their time because none of their parts even aired.
Before I talk about specifics, I want to write about how it can be difficult when you’re the Bachelor. Have any of the women thought about how hard it is to speak to so many people in such a short amount of time? Have any of them thought about how hard it is to speak to 24 women in eight hours? Then 13 in three hours, then 10 in three more, then five … It’s very easy to speak when you only have to focus on one guy, but it’s much harder when the guy has to get to know 27 women. It isn’t easy to remember all of the conversations or the questions that I ask, but I always tried my best and I wish the women recognized that.
I wish I could ask them if they could see how nervous they were every time they tried to talk to me. I let the majority of the women go because I knew that the process was too hard for them and that they weren’t able to open up to me. I understand it’s a very hard situation, but I always tried to find ways to make the women feel as comfortable as possible. The women I had a better connection and attraction with are the ones that I felt fit more into what I was looking for.