12/09/2013 AT 9:00 AM ET
Katy Perry isn’t ruling out the possibility of having children one day – but it’s not happening tomorrow.
“I’m definitely not there yet, and I can’t plan that far in advance,” she tells January’s Marie Claire, out Dec. 17, when asked about having kids. “When I decide to have a family, I’ll just want to be Mom for a little bit.”
“He’s just a fantastic partner,” she says. “I’ve been a fan of his for such a long time. He’s got a brilliant, brilliant mind. It’s a rad, mature relationship.”
The two might not be collaborating on a baby anytime soon, but the pair did duet on “Who You Love,” a song they co-wrote for Mayer’s latest album, Paradise Valley. The duo released the alluring cover image of the new single last week.
“I think it was a way of control. I think it was part of, ‘If I have a kid, then I would have to sacrifice – I’d have to be home more.’ I really wanted to, but I knew I wasn’t ready for it.”
It also appears her divorce was a factor in her temporary split from Mayer earlier this year, which allowed her time to heal.
“I took a break from my boyfriend, not one that I wanted,” she explains. “It was like a splash of cold water to search inward on what was going on with me. That is what led me to this new awakening, this realizing, ‘If I don’t do some self-love, I’m not going to be able to keep the love that I want.’ ”
“I still needed to deal with all of my ex-husband stuff. I hadn’t,” she adds. “It’s almost like if I kept talking about it, it would seem like I actually cared about it. I don’t.”