updated 01/24/2013 AT 10:00 AM ET
•originally published 01/24/2013 AT 11:45 AM ET
Hoppy has responded to Frankel’s divorce petition by demanding from the reality-TV star almost exactly the same things she is demanding from him, TMZ.com reports.
Both are seeking primary custody of Bryn, who will be 3 in May, as well as child support from their ex, along with money for other expenses, including insurance.
Both sides also want exclusive rights to their marital residence.
She later said she felt like a failure for not being able to make it work.
Hoppy has not commented publicly on the split, and neither his lawyers, nor Frankel’s reps, immediately returned calls for comment.