updated 10/03/2012 AT 9:50 AM ET
•originally published 10/03/2012 AT 1:00 PM ET
“I never spoke to her. I wish all of them well, but I was not involved in any of that,” Kidman, who weathered her own emotional split from the star in 2001, tells PEOPLE’s Australian sister publication, WHO magazine, for its 20th Anniversary issue, which asked the Oscar winner to look back on her own past 20 years.
Still Kidman, 45, looking resplendent in a five-page pictorial spread – and back to her natural red tresses – says she’s grateful for her 10-year marriage to Cruise, 50, because he helped to shape her family, now four kids strong.
“I got married really fast and really young. But I don’t regret that because it got me [children] Bella and Connor and I did have a fantastic marriage for a long period,” says Kidman, now happily married to country music star and fellow Aussie Keith Urban since 2006.