updated 07/05/2012 AT 11:30 AM ET
•originally published 07/05/2012 AT 7:35 AM ET
When Katie Holmes spoke to Elle for the magazine’s August issue, she was about six weeks away from filing for divorce from Tom Cruise – and may have hinted at her decision to end her five-year marriage.
“He has been Tom Cruise for 30 years,” she said, when asked about her husband. “I know who I am and where I am and where I want to go, so I want to focus on that.”
And that, according to the actress, did not mean identifying herself as Mrs. Tom Cruise to get ahead. “Things are not handed to anyone,” she told the magazine, on stands July 17. “If anything, you work a little bit harder when you re in such visible circumstances.”
Holmes, who stunned her fans and blindsided Cruise by filing for divorce last week, explains that when she was in her 20s, “It’s like you re trying too hard to figure everything out.” (Holmes began dating Cruise when she was 26.) Now 33, her attitude has changed.
“I definitely feel much more comfortable in my own skin. I feel sexier,” she says. “I’m starting to come into my own. It’s like a new phase.”