updated 01/25/2012 AT 10:00 AM ET
•originally published 01/26/2012 AT 8:35 AM ET
Fake it ‘til you make it.
That, in a nutshell, is William H. Macy’s advice to men on how to keep things passionate after the first few years of marriage.
“Just act like you love her more than anybody you’ve ever seen in your life, and you’ll get it back in spades. Just pretend,” says the actor, 61, whose been married to Desperate Housewives actress Felicity Huffman for 15 years. “You have to pretend. Make it up, just make it up!”
Speaking to In The Mixx at the AXE Hair Media Lounge during the Sundance Film Festival, where he was promoting his new film The Surrogate, the Shameless star said you have to put some work in, too.
“Marriage is really hot and ooey-gooey for about a year or two, and then the rest of it is a relationship, which you got to work on,” he says. “You can have passion, but you’ve got to work on it.”
So, by pretending, does he mean … role play? “Role play. Do whatever you need,” he says. “The point is, you’ve got to set your sights. You’ve got to say, ‘Do we want to make this hot? Or do we not?’ And if you do, then do it! Don’t give yourself excuses.”