08/04/2011 AT 8:10 PM ET
When it comes to a long-lasting relationship, former Bachelor couple Jason Mesnick and Molly Malaney have some words of wisdom to share with The Bachelorette’s recently engaged couple, Ashley Hebert and J.P. Rosenbaum.
“Don’t rush, Mesnick, 35, tells PEOPLE. “Just because you met on a TV show and just because you now have a ring on your finger doesn’t mean you have to get married in three months. Maybe it’s a year. Maybe it’s two years. Just make sure the relationship works the way you want it to.”
And, adds Malaney, “focus only on each other. Do not let the media guide your life.