updated 03/02/2010 AT 5:00 PM ET
•originally published 03/04/2010 AT 11:00 AM ET
To the world, Andrew Koenig was an actor best known for playing Richard “Boner” Stabone in the 80s sitcom Growing Pains. But to his younger sister, Danielle, he was so much more.
“Anything he did was thoughtful, really, in his creative life and in his activism life and in the way he dealt with people,” she says of her 41-year-old older brother, who, after going missing last month, was found dead in Vancouver’s Stanley Park on Feb. 25 – a victim of suicide. “He wrestled with depression and so there were obviously different sides to his personality, but he was also incredibly supportive of me and he was a fantastic uncle to my son.”
Danielle Koenig says that her brother fought a battle with depression for much of his life, and recently had stopped taking his medication. Still, the last time she saw him, on Jan. 31, he seemed okay.
“He was here for an early birthday [party] for me because he couldn’t be here the next weekend because he was going out of town – we knew he was going to Vancouver,” she says, adding that he even brought over a birthday cake. “We had dinner with my family and he played with my son and we hung out a little bit and he went home. Nothing seemed out of the ordinary.”
Danielle describes Andrew’s relationship with her son as “really great.”
“That’s the part that’s really painful that they won’t have each other anymore,” she says. “He was funny and goofy and never afraid to make fun of himself.”
While she says memorial services for Andrew Koenig will be private, those looking to make donations in his name can contribute to USCampaignForBurma.org, HealtheBay.org and Vista Del Mar Child and Family Services.