02/12/2010 AT 9:00 PM ET
When Holly Robinson Peete was told by a friend that John Mayer – a musician her whole family admired – had called her “gorgeous” in a Playboy interview, she blushed and even told E! in a widely reported interview that she felt flattered.
But the apparent compliment turned sour when Robinson Peete read the full interview, complete with his statement about African American women and his use of the N-word. “I was disgusted and offended,” says Robinson Peete, who herself had faced criticism from some who felt she had initially been an apologist for Mayer.
Robinson Peete reveals to PEOPLE that Mayer has reached out to her to apologize for involving her in his firestorm, but not for his actual words. The actress says it’s “time for him to really just drop the frat boy act” and “take responsibility for these hurtful comments.”
A spokesperson for Mayer says: “On Wednesday, John apologized for his remarks via Twitter and again in public that night. His remorse is genuine and he has expressed sincere regret for all of his word choices.”