updated 09/24/2008 AT 4:00 PM ET
•originally published 09/25/2008 AT 7:00 AM ET
Clay Aiken’s best friend – and the mother of their 7-week-old son Parker – music producer Jaymes Foster, 50, chatted with PEOPLE during the magazine’s photo shoot at Aiken’s home in North Carolina, where Foster is currently staying. While Aiken tended to Parker, who was conceived via in vitro fertilization, Foster dished about her pregnancy, being an older mom, and who’s better at changing diapers:
What is it about Clay that makes him a great dad?
Jaymes: He’s an incredible caregiver. As far as changing the diapers and seeing what’s wrong with [Parker] and getting him to go sleep, Clay’s a natural and he’s really, really good with that. On a larger scale, he’s the perfect person. He’s been a school teacher, we have the same morals, family is very important to him and Parker means everything to us.
At age 50, do you feel ready to take on parenting for the first time?
Jaymes: I really think I was not ready to have children – well, I know I was not ready to have children, be a mother – in my 20s or 30s. I had the freedom then to travel the world and have a wonderful career. I believe at this point in my life it’s the right time, and I think because it’s the right time, I’ll hopefully do a good job. If I don’t, Clay will be all over me!
Was the pregnancy difficult?
Jaymes: I thought I’d be one of the lucky ones that didn’t get the nausea, that I’d sail right through the pregnancy. But unfortunately I had it the whole time! I dealt with it on my own until I found out that there is a great new medication that helps eliminate the nausea, which I took the entire pregnancy. But other than that, it was really a breeze.
Do you support Clay’s decision to publicly acknowledge he’s gay?
Jaymes: I totally support him. It’s his choice. It’s a choice that he made. I love him and I’ll support him in any choice that he makes, whether as an entertainer, or a father, human being, of course I support him.
Are there any baby-related chores that you or Clay shy away from?
Jaymes: It’s funny because we were both very relaxed from the minute he was born. But the one thing I’m a little nervous about is clipping his hand nails because I think I might cut him, so Clay definitely has a handle on that and takes care of that. [Parker] doesn’t like baths so much, so I tend to do the bathing because he kind of cries through that so I’ve taken that on as a job. Clay would be happy to do that, but I just figure, okay, if he does the nails, I’ll do the bath.
How has your relationship with Clay changed since Parker’s birth?
Jaymes: We love each other dearly and deeply as friends, but I think as parents now, there’s an even greater bond, certainly for me. Our job is to remain best friends for the rest of our lives and that’s the most important thing for Parker.
For the photos of Parker and more of Clay Aiken’s candid interview about fatherhood, coming out, and his message for the Claymates, pick up the upcoming issue of PEOPLE, on newsstands Friday